Why is it always the women who have to change? I read some article on MSN or Slate. The article tried to figure out why women stayed with abusive husbands or boyfriends. The article stated that the violent men are never cured of their violence. Once violent always violent despite any and all efforts of the psychiatric community (I'm assuming they are excluding sedation as a method). Well I say if he can't change then why should the woman have to change? She's in love with violent man maybe there is no cure for that (barring sedation).
Oh and another thing to answer the article's question "Why do women stay with their abusers?" Because the women love these men.